Retirement comes with a lot of perks. Some people will already have plans or be looking for certain things when they get here. Others might be searching for a way to keep themselves busy or wondering what they’re going to do once sleeping in and watching TV get old. One of the best things about retirement, which is actually one of the things that a lot of people overlook, is the fact that you get to spend time with your favorite person: yourself.
Our whole lives, we are dealing with relationships. We have friends, spouses, children, family, and coworkers that we have to encounter on a regular basis. Everyone else’s needs usually come first because we get so caught up in the environment that we are working in. Once your children are grown, your career has ended, and you’re just on your own, or with your spouse, you will realize that you are getting to know a person you might not know very much about. Self-reflection is an awesome part of retirement and it’s going to help you forge one of the most important relationships that you will have in your lifetime.
As a professional, I’ve dealt with a lot of relationship issues and situations. I’ve helped a lot of people get the support that they need and find the tools so that they could explore their relationships and set them right. I’ve also seen a lot of people who don’t even know themselves, and once they retire, they are quite surprised to figure out that and try to determine where they’re going to go next. I have taught workshops on making friends with yourself. I’ve counseled couples who needed help finding independence and growing together after retirement. I’ve been there. It’s not always an easy road.
The great thing is, though, that if you give it a chance you can get a lot out of your investment. It’s the time for YOU to shine and you need to figure out what you want and who you are. This is your second act of life and it’s all about what you want and who you are. It’s that simple. Make sure that you keep this in mind and when you are put in a position where you meet a stranger that you thought you knew all along. Cultivate this relationship and take advantage of getting to know yourself, because it will make your life that much better.