Re-Learning Relationships: Putting Yourself First

When you get to retirement, you’ve got a lifetime of experiences behind you. Most of them were likely involved in taking care of others in some capacity. As husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, and as employees, we have been trained to do for others. This sense of fulfillment that comes from putting the focus on everyone else is what leads to ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’ when the children have all grown and gone. It’s also what can hamper your enjoyment during retirement. If you feel like helping others is your purpose, it can seem quite unfulfilling to be retired where you aren’t put in a position to do more than enjoy yourself.


Fortunately, there is a lot of good that can come from putting yourself first. As long as you take the time to explore the opportunities that are available, you can find your own sense of purpose in making you a priority and finding things that you enjoy doing. It’s a learning experience, for sure, but it’s one that is well worth having if you truly want to get the most out of your retirement. You have to take the time to explore your options and find things that you want to do. Of course, when you’ve been focused on others for so long, it can be hard to figure out what you like.


There are so many different services and tools out there that you can take advantage of to find exactly what you’re looking for. It takes time to re-learn how to put yourself first, but it’s something that is worth the energy if you’re looking to get more out of your retirement. Feel free to try new things and explore everything that’s out there so that you can find yourself and find the most enjoyment from your retirement. When you make yourself a priority, it can be an adjustment. Don’t get discouraged, though. Rely on your family and friends for support in knowing that it’s okay for you to focus on yourself and you’ll be on your way to a great retirement in no time.