Retirement Cliques: How to Avoid the Feeling of Being Back in High School

When it comes to retirement socialization, it can be hard to avoid cliques and groups that seem exclusive to a certain degree. However, if you keep things open and choose your friends carefully, it will be a lot easier for you to get everything that you need out of your retirement. A lot of people don’t even like socialization because of the divided and clique-like nature of things. Fortunately, there are great ways that you can find friends and keep the peace, no matter what you are dealing with.


It’d be nice to think that we’re all evolved and beyond that clique stage. The fact of the matter, however, is that you will typically have a lot of different reasons that some people still don’t like hanging out with others. You will never be able to avoid any kind of conflict or drama, at any age. However, in retirement, more people tend to develop a relaxed position and are more willing to befriend people without the standard issues of position or social standing. Of course, if you have a close group of friends, you will be able to avoid this altogether.


The only place where we really see divided groups of friends in the retirement community is among those who have been friends for many years, or among different activity groups. People who have strong bonds tend to be reluctant to letting new people in. Additionally, if you have friends that you share a specific interest with, such as a group that plays cards or meets for other activities, it’s going to be more focused on that element than on the inclusiveness of everyone.


The moral of the story is that we can never really get away from that clique feeling completely, but you can do more to broaden your horizons and find people with whom you can enjoy a lot of different activities so that you don’t have to worry about things being segregated and causing conflicts or excessive drama.